Today I received a phone call from a friend. At first we were just chatting about life, but then she started talking about some of our mutual friends that she was worried about. She was telling me about some of the decisions they were making, and how they justify their actions. She started explaining how worried she was about them, and how her worry is turning into anger. She was saying that she is starting to think that she shouldn't hangout with them anymore, but it's hard because she's been friends with them for years. I know how she feels because I've dealt with the same urge, but I finally decided that they are better as distant friends. She was asking me what to do. I told her that right now they aren't being the best of friends to her, and they aren't setting a good example for her, so she should probably at least take a break from them. What can you do for friends like that? I mean, you care for them, but they aren't the best of friends right now, and they are so hard-headed and stuck in their ways that they aren't going to change. Most people would say to love them for who they are, but what does that entail? Do you say to them, "Hey, I noticed that you are giving up on yourself, and throwing your life down the drain, but just know that I love you"? How is that helping anyone? I was reading in True to the Faith under "love" and it says, "Love is a feeling of deep devotion, concern, and affection... Our expressions of love for others may include being kind to them, listening to them, mourning with them, comforting them, serving them, praying for them, sharing the gospel with them, and being their friend." This in no way says to stand by and let them do their thing. We need to talk to them in a loving way, listen to them, and if they choose to be angry with something that you say, which they probably will, that is when you pray for them and serve them. Bottom line, you may have to take a break from bad influences, but don't just disappear. Explain things to them. Let them know that you'll be right there for them when they need you, then take a step back. If they know how you feel (even if they didn't like what you had to say) it will at least get them thinking. They'll eventually figure out that you were only doing what you did out of love. Have patience and faith. It'll all come out in the wash.
February 24, 2011
Where Have the Anvils Gone?
Today I received a phone call from a friend. At first we were just chatting about life, but then she started talking about some of our mutual friends that she was worried about. She was telling me about some of the decisions they were making, and how they justify their actions. She started explaining how worried she was about them, and how her worry is turning into anger. She was saying that she is starting to think that she shouldn't hangout with them anymore, but it's hard because she's been friends with them for years. I know how she feels because I've dealt with the same urge, but I finally decided that they are better as distant friends. She was asking me what to do. I told her that right now they aren't being the best of friends to her, and they aren't setting a good example for her, so she should probably at least take a break from them. What can you do for friends like that? I mean, you care for them, but they aren't the best of friends right now, and they are so hard-headed and stuck in their ways that they aren't going to change. Most people would say to love them for who they are, but what does that entail? Do you say to them, "Hey, I noticed that you are giving up on yourself, and throwing your life down the drain, but just know that I love you"? How is that helping anyone? I was reading in True to the Faith under "love" and it says, "Love is a feeling of deep devotion, concern, and affection... Our expressions of love for others may include being kind to them, listening to them, mourning with them, comforting them, serving them, praying for them, sharing the gospel with them, and being their friend." This in no way says to stand by and let them do their thing. We need to talk to them in a loving way, listen to them, and if they choose to be angry with something that you say, which they probably will, that is when you pray for them and serve them. Bottom line, you may have to take a break from bad influences, but don't just disappear. Explain things to them. Let them know that you'll be right there for them when they need you, then take a step back. If they know how you feel (even if they didn't like what you had to say) it will at least get them thinking. They'll eventually figure out that you were only doing what you did out of love. Have patience and faith. It'll all come out in the wash.
February 22, 2011
Oy with the Poodles Already
I'm not much of a swearer. In fact, when a curse word does slip (usually the H word) my friends simply laugh at me, or give me a funny look because it is such a rare event. Today, however, I declare the day as an "Ah, Hell" day. Let's just say nothing has really gone right today. Although it hasn't been a horrible day, it has been one of those days where at the end you can't think of anything else to say except "ah, hell". I even went as far as to drink a Dr. Pepper today. I haven't had caffeine in years. Basically, all I have to say today is that not every day has to be perfect, and things aren't always going to work out the way you expect, but instead of driving yourself mad sometimes you just have to say "ah, hell" and move on.
February 21, 2011
Bless that Groundhog
I never would have said this a year ago, but I'm LOVING this 40 degree weather. It feels so marvelous outside. I drove to the grocery store with a short sleeve shirt on and my window rolled down. I went running this morning in shorts and a long sleeve shirt. I know that it will snow again soon enough (considering that it snowed yesterday), but I am going to fully enjoy this beautiful weather while I've got it. While I'm sitting here eating my Fun Dip and staring out my window I can't help but be excited for spring. I mean there's March Madness, spring training for baseball, the marriage of my good friends Chelci and Jordan (thumbs up for figuring out the whole dating/engaging/marrying thing), the arrival of my first nephew, and spring break! As much as I love wearing cute coats I am ready to start getting a tan again. I'm quite tired of being ghostly white. Let's just say I am a big fan of the sun.
February 19, 2011
Running and running and running and running....
So today I decided to be a good girl and go running with my roommate. It was raining outside so we decided to go to the indoor track. I'm normally not a fan of tracks because I get so bored and quit running sooner than I would if I were running outside, but it was better than running in the nasty weather. This running day was actually quite eventful. My roommate had to run 6 miles because she is training for a half marathon, so we were there for an hour. I was proud of myself because I ran the whole hour without stopping. I even tried to time myself to see if I could do a lap in a minute. I was always around 10 seconds short, but I'll get it one of these days. I looked at my shoes when I got home and I realized that I really need some new shoes. The soles of my shoes are completely worn down!
See how the left side is completely worn down. This is when I decided that I really need to invest in some new shoes. Bless the internet and its limitless supplies of wonderment! These are my new dream shoes, and I will own them one of these days:
Do you not just love the yellow and green glory?! I just discovered that if you go to Nike's store online you can design your own shoes. It's fantastic!
See how the left side is completely worn down. This is when I decided that I really need to invest in some new shoes. Bless the internet and its limitless supplies of wonderment! These are my new dream shoes, and I will own them one of these days:
Do you not just love the yellow and green glory?! I just discovered that if you go to Nike's store online you can design your own shoes. It's fantastic!
February 10, 2011
The Day of Love
First off I wanted to report on my progress on my resolution. I have been a lot more outgoing and social. I even was invited (and went!) to Park City with a group to see the aerial skiing competition. It was a lot of fun. We watched the competition (the jumps were amazing), then we went out to dinner. It was delicious!
I have a confession. I have never had a boyfriend on Valentine's Day, yet I love the day! I don't need a boy to make the day spectacular. I usually busy myself handing out valentines to all of my family and friends. I find it a day to do little acts of kindness for anyone and everyone. This year I'm excited to be teaching on Valentine's Day. It will be so fun to have my students pass out valentines and play games. It will be nice to spend the day with kids that love it, instead of mostly bitter girls and guys my age. My problem is that I'm too independent. I realize that I need to date so that I can eventually get married, but I'm completely content being single (most days). My grandma told me that one day I'll meet a guy that I'll want to be dependent on and that I 'll want to need. I think she's right, and that's why I've never really worried about it.
I have a confession. I have never had a boyfriend on Valentine's Day, yet I love the day! I don't need a boy to make the day spectacular. I usually busy myself handing out valentines to all of my family and friends. I find it a day to do little acts of kindness for anyone and everyone. This year I'm excited to be teaching on Valentine's Day. It will be so fun to have my students pass out valentines and play games. It will be nice to spend the day with kids that love it, instead of mostly bitter girls and guys my age. My problem is that I'm too independent. I realize that I need to date so that I can eventually get married, but I'm completely content being single (most days). My grandma told me that one day I'll meet a guy that I'll want to be dependent on and that I 'll want to need. I think she's right, and that's why I've never really worried about it.
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